Things You Should Let Go Of Now For Your Peace Of Mind And Happiness

As I sat outside and watched the sunrise recently, I was filled with a mixture of emotions. I felt like crying, smiling, happy and sad simultaneously. I realized it was a new day, which symbolized a new beginning. As I meditated, I realized there were things I should let go of for my peace of mind and happiness.

The previous day, I had gone to the market with my younger sister to buy vegetables and fruits. The vendor we bought peas from was very rude to us. Her rudeness upset me so much that I was still annoyed when I went to bed and when I woke up to watch the sunrise.

Guess what? As I watched the sunrise and realized it was a new day and a new beginning, I decided to let go of my anger toward the vendor. When I let go, I felt peaceful and happy.

As a human being, there are things you hang on to that steal your peace of mind and happiness. If you’d like to experience peace of mind and happiness, it’s important to let go of some things immediately.

Things You Should Let Go Of Now For Your Peace Of Mind And Happiness

Let me tell you some things you should let go of now for your peace of mind and happiness without further ado.

Let Go Of Past Trauma For Your Peace Of Mind And Happiness

Past trauma is basically the negative/bad things that happened to you in the past. For instance, in my case, I was hanging on to the pain the fruit vendor had inflicted on me the previous day. Hanging on to the trauma was stealing my peace of mind and happiness.

Some examples of past trauma you could be holding on to include the following:

  • Abuse - verbal, physical, sexual, emotional, etc.
  • Bullying
  • Mistreatment
  • Racial or religious discrimination
  • Being neglected as a kid
  • Loss of any kind

Try to let go of past trauma. You see, hanging on to past trauma could lead to:

  • Anger
  • Resentment
  • A sense of loss
  • Bitterness
  • Disappointment
  • Hurt
  • Guilt
  • Shame

When you hang on to past trauma, you get stuck in the past. In other words, it becomes very difficult to advance in life.

So, make a deliberate effort to let go of past trauma so that you can have a new beginning. I know it’s easier said than done, but where there is a will, there is a way.

However, if you find it difficult to let go of past trauma on your own, it’s best to seek the services of a therapist. Alternatively, you can look for an online or offline support group.

Let Go Of People Pleasing

Another thing you should let go of for your peace of mind and happiness is people pleasing. When you’re a people-pleaser, you put other people’s needs ahead of your needs.

It’s okay to be kind and empathetic to others. However, if you always go out of your way even when you don’t feel like it, you could be a people-pleaser.

For example, you’ve just arrived home to your family. Suddenly, a friend calls asking you to meet them for a drink. You are tired, hungry, and would rather be with your family. However, being a people-pleaser, you decide to meet your friend. You leave your family members disappointed.

Or, you have some little money to push you up to your payday. Suddenly, your friend calls asking you for money. You don’t want to disappoint your friend or make her think you have suddenly become mean. So, you give her some cash. You struggle financially until payday because you’re a people-pleaser.

Here are some reasons why you should let go of people-pleasing:

People can take advantage of you: When people know you’re a people-pleaser, they can take advantage of you in various ways. You see, they might not care much about you – they like that they can use you. You’ll know their true colors the day you decide to stop pleasing them.

People-pleasing is not healthy: Putting other people’s needs before your needs could lead to health issues such as exhaustion, stress, resentment, depression, etc.

So, if you’re a people-pleaser, let go. Always put yourself first. So, it’s okay to say no. You’ll definitely have peace of mind and happiness the day you stop people-pleasing.

Let Go Of Envy For Your Peace Of Mind and Happiness

Envy is basically feeling a sense of jealousy for someone else’s luck, qualities, achievements, possessions, etc. Feeling some envy occasionally is natural. However, if your envy is obsessive, let go.

You see, in this world, there will always be people who are lesser and greater than you.

Furthermore, you don’t know the story of those people you’re envious of.

The reasons you should let go of envy include the following:

  • If you are envious, you could become bitter.
  • Envy could lead to dissatisfaction, frustration, insecurity, or resentment – these feelings could lead to stress.
  • Being envious could lead to hatred – you could hate the person you envy, thus ruining the relationship.
  • Envy robs you of peace of mind.
  • Envy can make you miserable – steal your happiness.

So, you could try to do the following instead of being envious:

  • See the success of others as an opportunity to reflect on your life.
  • Let the achievements of others motivate you to work towards achieving your own goals.
  • Celebrate the success of others.
  • Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for your own achievements, both small and big.

Let Go Of Constant Complaining For Your Peace Of Mind And Happiness

All humans complain at one point or the other. Complaining is the way humans respond to a problem or communicate their dissatisfaction about something. So, we can't do away with complaining. However, if you complain constantly, it’s good to let go.
 
You see, if you complain constantly, you could start enjoying it and thus make it your way of life. If you’re not careful, you could start complaining about yourself, other people, the world, and everything in life.
 
The reasons you should let go of constant complaining include the following:

  • Complaining spoils your mood, thus making you miserable.
  • Complaining usurps your energy, thus leaving you irritable, drained, and exhausted.
  • When you complain constantly, you feel a sense of hopelessness and helplessness, thus making you anxious and stressed.
  • Complaining spoils other people’s moods.
  • Complaining can push your friends and loved ones away – people don’t like someone who always oozes negative vibes. You could thus end up lonely.

As you can see, if you want to have peace of mind and happiness, it’s best to stop complaining constantly.
 
Here are things you can do instead of complaining constantly:

  • Try to look at life positively.
  • Always try to look at the bright side of things.
  • Try to cultivate an attitude of gratitude – be grateful for the many things that are going on well in your life.
  • Try to go with the flow instead of complaining, and enjoy yourself while at it.
  • Avoid spending time with complainers; they want you to join their pity party and become as miserable as they are.

 Let Go Of Thoughts of Revenge Or Evil

I mentioned earlier in this post my encounter with a rude vendor at the market. I was so upset by her rudeness that I was disturbed the whole night. I was wondering how I could teach her a lesson. My idea was to go and complain to her employer.

The following morning, as I watched the sunrise, I realized it was a new day – there was no need to cling to the things that went wrong the previous day. I let go of the incident and gradually regained my peace of mind and happiness.  

Is there someone you’ve been planning to revenge on? Let it go. It doesn’t matter what the person did to hurt you. Just let it go.

You see, two wrongs don’t make a right. Also, “an eye for an eye can make the whole world blind.” (Gandhi). So, revenge is never a good idea.

When you plan to revenge on someone, you waste a lot of time and energy planning and plotting. As you plan and plot, you feel disturbed, stressed, bitter, miserable, etc.

In other words, the plans for revenge weigh heavily on your conscience. This means you have no peace and you’re unhappy.

So, I urge you to let go of your plans of revenge or evil. Be the bigger person.

If you’re a believer, allow God to revenge for you. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God's wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. (Romans 12:19).

Or, leave it to karma. According to karma, what goes around comes around. So, people cannot escape the consequences of their actions, no matter how long it takes.


Let Go Of Your Past Mistakes For Your Peace of Mind and Happiness

As a human being, you’re not perfect. You’re therefore likely to make mistakes as you go through life. Some mistakes are minor while others are grievous. The grievous mistakes could have a huge, negative impact on your life in the future.

Some of the grievous mistakes you feel like you’ve made in your life could include the following:

  • Not advancing your education when you had the money and time to do it.
  • Wasting money when you were young, instead of saving and investing it.
  • Wasting your life in drunkenness, drug abuse, etc.
  • Cheating on your partner; led to a breakdown of your relationship.
  • Neglecting your parents when they were alive.
  • Involving yourself in crime, thus ending up on the wrong side of the law.
  • Not taking good care of your health, thus leading to your lifestyle diseases.
  • Not forming a strong bond with your family (partner and children).


Have you made any of the above mistakes or other mistakes? Let it go.

You see, when you hang on to past mistakes, you can have the following negative feelings towards yourself:

  • Pain
  • Hurt
  • Hate/loathing
  • Bitterness
  • Regret
  • Shame

These feelings steal your peace and happiness.

Instead of ruminating and beating yourself up for your past mistakes, try to be kind to yourself. Most importantly, try to forgive yourself. By so doing, you make peace with yourself.

I know it’s easier said than done, but the journey of a thousand miles starts with one step.

Accept that you’re only human and are thus bound to make mistakes.

Accept that you made the mistakes out of ignorance, foolishness, pride, greed, lust, etc.

Forgive yourself and ask for forgiveness from those you may have hurt.

Learn from your past mistakes and try not to repeat them.

Once you’ve done the above, let it go. It’s never too late to start anew. So, embrace the new beginning, the new dawn. 


Let Go Of Bad Habits For Your Peace Of Mind And Happiness

Do you have a bad habit that steals your peace of mind and happiness? If you do, let it go.

Some bad habits that you need to let go of for your peace of mind and happiness include the following:

  • Smoking: It’s unhealthy and costly.
  • Gluttony: It’s an unhealthy and costly habit.
  • Drunkenness: Is unhealthy, costly, and ruins relationships.
  • Sexual perversions: These may include pornography, masturbation, etc. They could affect your mental health and also enslave you.
  • Overspending: It could land you in debt and also cause you financial stress.
  • Gambling: It could lead to debt, addiction, and financial stress.
  • Cutting corners: It could cause you anxiety and stress or even land you on the wrong side of the law.
  • Laziness: It can prevent you from achieving your full potential.
  • Procrastination: It could prevent you from reaching your full potential.


If you have any of these bad habits or others, let them go. I know that getting rid of some habits is challenging. You therefore have to make a concerted effort to let them go.

Suppose you’re unable to let go of a certain habit on your own. In that case, you can join groups of people who are trying to let go of a particular habit. When you join such groups, you get moral and emotional support.

Alternatively, you can seek the help of a therapist to help you let go of the bad habit.

Letting go of a bad habit will definitely give you peace of mind and happiness.


Let Go Of Toxic People For Your Peace of Mind and Happiness

The other thing you should let go of for your peace of mind and happiness is toxic people. Toxic people can be your colleagues, friends, family members, school/college mates, etc.

Here’s how to identify toxic people in your life:

  • They criticize you.
  • They judge you.
  • They complain about everything and everyone.
  • They gossip about everyone.
  • They put you down.
  • They have a bad attitude toward life.
  • They always talk about themselves, never allowing you to talk.
  • They manipulate you.
  • They try to control you.
  • They disrespect you.


Whenever you spend time with a toxic person, you may experience some of the following emotions:

  • Sadness
  • Depression
  • Anger
  • Irritability
  • Suppression
  • Bitterness
  • Misery

In addition, you may feel scorned and drained emotionally and physically after your encounter with a toxic person.

Guess what? You don’t need toxic people in your life as they steal your peace of mind and happiness.

There are different ways of letting go of a toxic person. Below are some things you can do:

  • Talk to the person: In this scenario, you tell the person that you want to take a break from them. Tell them the reasons you want to end the friendship. You need a lot of courage to take this route.
  • Let the friendship fade: You do this by not being too involved in the person’s life. The friendship will fade gradually.
  • Ghost the person: This is a mean method, but you can do it when push comes to shove. You simply cut off communication with the person. That means unfriending them on social media, blocking them on your phone, etc.


Conclusion

Life is short and it’s important to enjoy every moment. Suppose you want to have peace of mind and happiness. In that case, it’s best to let go of some things.

When you let go of some of the things I mentioned above, your life will never be the same again. You'll gradually regain your peace of mind and happiness. You’ll definitely get a new lease of life. 


Also read: The Amazing Lessons You Can Learn About Life By Watching The Sunset

enna

I'm a life coach, teacher, mother, wife, writer, and blogger. I love writing about well-being, relationships, and family.

3 Comments

  1. Very good tips Ann,very true if we have to live well and enjoy the life we have been given.

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  2. I have several things to let go

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  3. Well put and very timely for me!

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